There are times that clients come to me when we first start working together and say that they are broken. I love that they feel safe enough with me to be open and vulnerable, but the truth is that you aren't broken. I know at times that might be hard to believe, but it's true. There can be big time bumps in the road for everyone where we put ourselves down, are hard on ourselves or it feels like life is hard on us. That doesn't mean we are broken, it could mean we need a little help to find our way out of whatever is going on. This could be a significant other, friend, coach or therapist.
There are also tools that you can look at to help yourself when you have a feeling that you are broken. First thing, let's change that mindset. Repeat to yourself..."I am not broken". Close your eyes and repeat it again, if this statement doesn't resonate with you, is there another one? Whatever it is repeat it 10 times. How are you feeling now?
Next, journal, why you are feeling the way you are feeling. Don't worry about this being novel worthy writing, just write. Whatever comes up put it on the paper, don't think about it. What feelings came up for you? What happened to your body as you journaled? How are you feeling right now after you wrote everything down?
Next I want you to stand up, do you feel your feet firmly routed in the ground? Close your eyes and repeat to yourself, 10 times, something positive like "I am an amazing person", "I am strong", "I kick butt". How are you feeling now?
Hopefully you are more relaxed, what are small steps that you can take to change whatever is in your life making you feel this sense of brokenness? These steps should help you to feel a sense of forward momentum. Now write the steps down in your journal. I want you make a promise to yourself to tackle one a day or a certain amount this week?
What is one special thing that you can do for yourself today or even better, right now!? I challenge you to not only do that thing, but find 5 ways to pamper or honor yourself over the next 7 days. You are worth it!
Lauren is the Founder of Simply Essential Life. Lauren is a Growth Strategist and Coach for Female Innovators and Disruptors.