As a mompreneur I feel like balance should be a four letter word. Balance is something moms try to continuously look for to find from the day your baby is handed to you. I spent my days trying to give everything in my life the same amount of attention, being a good mom, a good wife, good at my job, oh yeah and kinda sorta taking care of myself aka balance. You know what happened? I sucked at it. When I started my business, life became even more out of balance. I now had two children, my son and my business. All day long I fought this urge to want spend time on my business baby and felt horrible. Then when my to do list became an incredibly long list mocking me, I would have a sitter watch my son so I could work, I felt horrible. No where in any of that was time for me. It felt like I was failing at everything.
Then I went to a coaching weekend to further my coaching education and oddly enough the topic was balance. Sometimes the big man upstairs has a sense of humor. It was a intense weekend, but I walked away with a clear perspective. Balance is all about what we make of it. Balance isn't 50/50. Balance is figuring out the areas of your life you find important at that moment and figuring out the amount of time your feel comfortable giving each. This includes taking care of yourself, don't forget about that. You will never feel truly balanced if you forget about yourself. To be the best mom and momprenuer you need to take care of yourself first.
I'm a visual person, I actually took a circle and made a pie chart of my life and talked to myself. Yep, I out loud talked to myself. First there were my buckets or major areas in life, being a mom, my business, my relationship, myself...wait I'm redoing that list in a better order. Myself, being a mom, my business, my relationship. Now that I had the major buckets I figured out how many hours I could reasonably spend on each. Maybe I should put sleep in there? I love me some sleep.
Then I figure out how much time that equaled. Here's my example:
I realize that your buckets and life might look different then mine, but we all have things out there vying for our attention.
It might not even be about splitting things out in hours for you, that is how my brain works. Truly, it's about making a conscience decision everyday to spend YOUR time how you need/want to. Then do it! Let go of the guilt, it doesn't serve you to hold onto it.
Take this day by day, eventually you won't have to think about it so much.
So... should balance be a four letter word? Hell no!
If balance is feeling unobtainable for you, shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. Let's figure it out together.
Lauren is the Founder of Simply Essential Life. Lauren is a Growth Strategist and Coach for Female Innovators and Disruptors.